Nicole Cleveland and Breathe Again Magazine

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  • Book Marketing Tips: Create a Google Alert

    so_he_hurt_you_now_whatWriting your future best seller is not the part of the book process that will break your back; getting the much needed  exposure to encourage readers to purchase your book, is the part that you must dedicate time, preparation and  planning . My first book, So He Cheated, Now What ? was  a learning experience. I did almost everything WRONG when it came to marketing. I’m not ashamed to tell you that. I believe we live and learn. When you know better, you should do better.  I’m  trying to do better this go round.

    You write it, publish it  and then they’ll come is a LIE from the pit of hell !

    This go around I have tried to be a bit more strategic and it’s paying off. My new release, “So He Hurt You, Now What? – Messages of Hope for my Hurting Sister” was released on February 10, 2014  and the response has been tremendous. I will not lie, it’s been work , but I wouldn’t trade it for anything! If you’re releasing your first book, make sure you take your vitamins, pray for strength and get ready to put in the work.

    I’ve decided to share some tips that have worked for me, things I want to do and things that I will NEVER  do again. (more…)

  • Healing After an Affair

    Will I ever heal? … I’m so angry….I feel so alone…What’s wrong with me?

    Those are a few words  I hear each week from women that are in the process of healing after an affair. Words that are not foreign to me, but words that came out of my mouth for a long time.

    How this could happen to me was at the top?

    I was so embarrassed and consumed with what others thought I could not heal.

    After all, we were in the church when the affair occurred. “Things like this should not happen while serving God”, I thought over and over again.

    Today I sing a very different song. Things like this happen, in the church and out of the church

    If you are trying to heal after infidelity  I want you to first know that it is possible. You will stop crying and you will get over it . “This Too Shall Pass”. Hear those words and repeat them to yourself. “This Too Shall Pass”.

    Below are 5 steps to start you or help you on your road to healing after an affair.

    1. Take it one hour at a time – Forget one day at a time, you may have to take it hour by hour, minute by minute and second by second.
    2. Don’t compare your situation with others. – This is dangerous. We are all different and we heal differently. Do it in your own time and in your way.
    3. Find you a scripture to hold on to throughout the process – There will be days you will want to throw in the towel, as it will get hard. Get a song that will minister to you. It could be your theme song. Find a scripture that will encourage you.
    4. Talk to someone you trust. It may be a pastor, a ministry leader, counselor or friend. Find someone you truly trust and open up to them. Please make sure you trust them.
    5. Forgive – You have been forgiven so you must forgive. You cannot heal or be free if you do not forgive the one that hurt you. When we think about forgiveness we tend to think it is about the one that betrayed us or caused the pain. Forgiveness is more about you than the other person. You free yourself when you forgive.

    Healing after an affair does not happen overnight so please give yourself time. If you allow the process to work and the Lord to heal, you will be able to go back and help that next sister that will cry the same tears you’ve cried. Your testimony is not for you, it is for someone else. Be strong and stay encouraged. I made it and so WILL you!

    To read my full testimony on how I overcame an affair in my marriage purchase,  “So He Cheated, Now What?”

  • Bless a Couple Dealing With the Aftermath of Infidelity

    Turn on the news and I can promise you there will be a leading story on infidelity.

    Politicians, athletes, movie stars,church leaders, high profile individuals  and the list goes on and on.

    I cringe each time I read,see or here the reports. Infidelity ( or whatever you want to call it – cheating,having an affair, jump off, side piece etc… ) is not going away. It will continue to happen, just as we continue to need food to survive.We know it’s going on , but what are we doing to deal with the aftermath? It’s no longer something we don’t talk about. It must be dealt with. Especially for those that want to rebuild their marriage. You can not sweep it under the rug,wishing it will just go away.  It does not happen that way. It must be dealt with.

    My heart goes out to the couple  that’s still struggling  with the aftermath of infidelity. The person that is still blaming themselves, won’t forgive and on the verge of walking away. I know first hand the pain that runs deep  and it feels like their world is falling apart. But I also know that God is a Restorer . He is able to do what we can not do when we turn it over to him.  ( but we must give it to him ) When I minister to women I tell them ” Taking my husband back was the easy part, rebuilding the trust was so very hard.” There were times I wanted to run, hide and just not deal with all the pain.

    When you decide ( and it must be what you really want to do )  to move forward and rebuild your marriage, it will be a process. For the most part it will not be a cake walk. It will take time,dedication,honesty,forgiveness and lots of love.

    To help couples trying to rebuild their marriage after an affair or infidelity, grab my book, “So He Cheated, Now What?” It’s my personal testimony and action steps on how my husband and I overcame an affair in our marriage. An affair that resulted in a child being born . If God allowed us to go through this process and now my marriage is stronger than ever, he can do it for you, your family member, sister or friend. He can do it !

    My gift to you is a special “So He Cheated, Now What?” Christmas Combo which includes, the ebook, audiobook and bonus interview with my husband titled, “Why Did You Cheat? ” Grab it now for just $10.

     

    Help my husband and I reach the masses struggling with the aftermath of infidelity. If God did it for us he can do it for you. Right now you  may feel  alone but I want you  to know you  are NOT alone. Your situation is NOT hopeless.

    We understand. We care.I get it. I don’t say this because I read it. I lived it.

    If it hasn’t happened to you, I bet you know someone that’s dealing with it right now. Purchase this combo today for just $10 and share our victorious testimony with them.